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There are many people out there saying ‘Romance films are boring, non-sense, and only lead to your “Final Fantasy”‘ People who think like this are too naïve, and haven’t lived long enough to see the reality of the world.

You have to have enough experience in the world, e.g. being tricked/ friendzoned  by the girl you like, before you truly admire a ‘romance’ work. A romance work, is a world where a man and woman can love each other freely, neglecting the limitation of the reality: If you two like each other, you can be together; if you fancy a couple of birds, you can work on those simultaneously and see which one work out the best; if you two just have physical needs, you can be friends with benefits. Yes it’s unrealistic, but why do you not think about it this way: Can the reality in which we live in, give us the happiness that we can obtain from those romance story? In the world of romance, it is not like ‘there is no negativity like hates, jealousy and the ugliness of human being’, it is just that every character can express themselves honestly, expressing the full love or hate, unlike in the real world, everyone lives within his hoods, hiding his real thoughts, escaping from the social network.

Fantasy exists in everyone’s heart, romance work is not place for you to escape from the real world, but a place to let you feel the happiness that the real world cannot give you. So, romance will teach you something wrong about the real world? Then, detective stories will teach you to commit crime, right? ‘Hunger Games’ teaches you to be selfish? If you don’t have self-control, you will probably learn to abuse animals after watching Pokémon. Listening to people who are against the genre of Romance, I have absolutely No Comment.


Being taken over by The Fear

Lily Allen’s The Fear can probably be crowned The National Anthem of the 21st Century.

‘I want to be rich and I want lots of money
I don’t care about clever I don’t care about funny
I want loads of clothes and fuckloads of diamonds
I heard people die while they are trying to find them’

These opening lines cannot be more real. People nowadays don’t give a crap about anything other than money. It’s easy to say we shouldn’t be too materialistic, but it’s hard to put this principle into life. At the end of the day, money means power, and it gives you a very comfortable life. It’s difficult, if not impossible, not to be engulfed by the greed inside us. Again, at the end of the day, ‘I’m not a saint but I’m not a sinner’.

‘And I’ll take my clothes off and it will be shameless
‘Cause everyone knows that’s how you get famous.’

This is exactly the view of the majority people I believe. We don’t seem to care how we get money, we don’t care about whether it’s ethic to do something in exchange of fame, glory, and eventually money. Is it the correct mindset? I don’t know. Living in a corrupted world, I don’t know what is real, and what I meant to feel anymore.

And here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=25QrnxD-NB4 you get to hear the great national anthem of the 21 century.

I do admire Lily Allen’s ability to write lyrics in a very very poetic form (at least to me it is so poetic). But the most important thing, is I think she does write people’s heart. I personally think, she did write a lot that reflects my life. The Fear is one of them, The Littlest Things… ehm… I may probably have encountered something similar.

Well, listening to Lily Allen’s at least gives me some comfort, so I know there are people outside who could still see the truth.

‘Sometimes I find myself sittin’ back and reminiscing,
especially when I have to watch other people kissin
Sometimes I wish we could just pretend
Even if only for one weekend
So come on, Tell me
Is this the end?
I was so lost back then
But with a little help from my friends
I found the light in the tunnel at the end’

‘The Littlest Things’

Probably Spring is the season of many friendzones happening, as I saw from the examples from my friends. Lily Allen’s ‘The Littlest Things’ popped up to my mind after being involved in the SAD STORIES. Yea, this is a break-up song, but can also be seen as a friendzone song.

‘The littlest things that take me there
I know it sounds lame but its so true
I know its not right, but it seems unfair
The things are reminding me of you’

The Littlest things? Aye, they could be little, but somehow powerful, that can drive you crazy, and it is unfair, that those memories remind me of the special ‘you’.

‘Sometimes I wish we could just pretend
Even if only for one weekend
So come on, Tell me
Is this the end?’

This is a very realistic bit, as you can call it the END, when you think ‘Oh I wish we could just pretend’, because you know it will never ever happen.

This is a song, that reminds us to be realists. There are two types of people in the world, romantic cheeseballs, and realists. Well, it is so idealistic to think that a relationship will last forever. It is not the case: this song reminds us that, no matter how close you can be with your one, there is still a chance for one person to change her (or his) mind, and dump you into the sea. No matter how flirtatious she was, no matter what she says, most ‘promises’ are never kept. Even if a couple really stays till they are so old, there must be one that ‘goes’ first, and the other will can only be ‘sitting back and reminiscing’. How dreadful is that? We come to the world alone, and probably leave it the same way. Keep this idea in mind, and in this way, you’ll feel less pain, when you get noticed that ‘your one’ (as you call) finds her one (who is not you) and keeps mentioning about ‘her one’ in front of you with the most cheerful face.


I was looking for movies that I wanted to watch, and ‘Up in the air’ caught my attention, probably because of George Clooney. I thought it would be a light movie, but I believed that movies with George Clooney could not be that shallow, so I gave it a go. Indeed, it was a lot deeper than I thought.

The movie is about George Clooney doing a job telling people on behalf of their companies that they are fired. It is probably one of the hardest jobs ever, telling people that they lost their job. Rhetorical techniques are definitely required for this. If you are looking for a movie with good speeches, this is it.

The ‘Backpack’ speech about commitment is the centre of the movie, and it is somehow inspiring. I will put the full speech at the end of this entry, but there are a few lines that caught my attention. He said ‘Relationships are the heaviest components in our lives‘, and that human should be alone, should try to avoid commitments as the more commitment we have, the less we can  do, and ‘the slower we move (meaning the less we do), the faster we die’. Well, everyone is born with commitment, we can hardly eliminate every commitment we have. Family is likely to be the first commitment we have, then as we grow, we have friends, schoolmates, and when we leave school, we have the commitment of work, then when you meet your Mr./ Mrs./ Right, you will have commitment as a boyfriend/ girlfriend, then the commitment of marriage, followed by commitment as parents…… Although as Gabe in ‘Little Manhattan’ (2005) said, ‘We come to the world alone, and we die in the exact same way’, those commitments come with our lives, the only way to avoid them is to die. George Clooney is right in the speech, commitments and relationships are the heavies components in our lives, as commitments come with responsibility, like a buy-one-get-one-free deal. The more commitments you have, the more you have to do. What do you get in return? It gives you consistency in your relationships, so you would not be like being so popular one day, and being ignored completely the other day, just like what happened in ‘500 days of Summer’. I think it is necessary to have some commitments in life, especially for family, and for your future family. If you do not commit yourself into a relationship, you probably end up regretting, as you will just live in your own world, and be so independent, while sometimes we are better together with some people. That’s the afterthought of the movie, and here is the inspiring ‘backpack speech’, enjoy it:

‘How much does your life weigh? Imagine for a second that you’re carrying a backpack. I want you to feel the straps on your shoulders. Feel ‘em? Now I want you to pack it with all the stuff that you have in your life. You start with the little things. The things on shelves and in drawers, the knick-knacks, the collectibles. Feel the weight as that adds up. Then you start adding larger stuff, clothes, table-top appliances, lamps, linens, your TV.
The backpack should be getting pretty heavy now. And you go bigger. Your couch, bed, your kitchen table. Stuff it all in there. Your car, get it in there. Your home, whether it’s a studio apartment or a two bedroom house. I want you to stuff it all into that backpack. Now try to walk. It’s kind of hard, isn’t it? This is what we do to ourselves on a daily basis. We weigh ourselves down until we can’t even move. And make no mistake, moving is living.
Now, I’m gonna set that backpack on fire. What do you want to take out of it? What do you want to take out of it? Photos? Photos are for people who can’t remember. Drink some ginkgo and let the photos burn. In fact, let everything burn and imagine waking up tomorrow with nothing. It’s kind of exhilarating, isn’t it?
Now, this is gonna be a little difficult, so stay with me. You have a new backpack. Only this time, I want you to fill it with people. Start with casual acquaintances, friends of friends, folks around the office, and then you move into the people that you trust with your most intimate secrets. Your cousins, your aunts, your uncles, your brothers, your sisters, your parents and finally your husband, your wife, your boyfriend or your girlfriend.
You get them into that backpack. And don’t worry. I’m not gonna ask you to light it on fire. Feel the weight of that bag. Make no mistake – your relationships are the heaviest components in your life. Do you feel the straps cutting into your shoulders?
All those negotiations and arguments, and secrets and compromises. You don’t need to carry all that weight. Why don’t you set that bag down? Some animals were meant to carry each other, to live symbiotically for a lifetime – star crossed lovers, monogamous swans. We are not those animals. The slower we move, the faster we die. We are not swans. We’re sharks.’

(Up in the Air 2009)

So…. are we swans, or sharks? Try to think about it 🙂

Innocence vs the Cruel Reality

Today, I want to share a little story that I have heard. I don’t know whether it’s just a fiction, but it’s worth hearing.

Here it goes:
Once upon a time, there were two young lads loving the same girl, among them, one was rich, and one was poor. They both told the girl that they liked her at the same time. The girl then said ‘You two can tell me that you like me after you have travelled around the world, it shows your loyalty if you don’t change your mind after seeing the girls in the world’

Then, the rich lad immediately booked the flight ticket and got on the trip; the poor lad, on the other hand, ran around the girl once, then told the girl ‘I have finished my trip around the world, because you are my world, and I love you!’ The girl smiled, and asked him to wait as she needed time to decide.

The rich lad finally came back from the trip. The girl, eventually, chose to go out with the rich lad, and left the poor lad alone.

This is the end of the story. I think the story is quite realistic too, because SAFETY is what people should look for, and money provides the feeling of being protected in some sense, probably this is why the girl would choose the rich lad at the end. The world is cruel, no matter how sweet, how caring the poor lad is, he still lost. I think nowadays, some girls are being too realistic, and somehow miss some of the caring ideas or sweet things that the men (who like them) do for them. If people are full of innocence, the world would definitely be a better place, with people attempting to do anything, creating new things and expressing their thoughts without any concern. Love, would also be a more magical relationship rather than a deal.