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Expectation vs Reality

‘Fall in love with someone who wants you, who waits for you. who understands you even in the madness; someone who helps you, and guides you, someone who is your support, your hope. fall in love with someone who talks with you after a fight. Fall in love with someone who misses you and wants to be with you. Do not fall in love only with a body or with a face; or with the idea of being in love.’
(Various sources)

This is quite a good quote about falling in love, and quotes like this, makes me want to believe in love again. It makes me want to believe that love is about finding a person who cares about you, who would understand you, and who is always there for your when you need. In other words, it’s about finding a person who shares mutual love with you, despite what the physical circumstances might be, such as geographical locations and other things. Yes, love is not about having a checklist or scoresheet rating your lover: where he lives, how much he earns, what languages he speaks, how tall he is (e.g. oh no, he lives quite far away, so I’d better not even try; oh no, he hasn’t got a proper job, no!!; oh no, he doesn’t speak my first language, then how would he be able to communicate with my friends and family?!; oh no, he just missed 175cm!)……… it should be about how you feel, and not just the numbers you have on your checklist!

Yep, while the above sounds romantically sensible, this is not how it works nowadays. The physical requirements can be real deal breakers nowadays, no matter how much you are willing to invest/ sacrifice/ commit to a relationship. Not fitting the bill can be seen as recipe for disaster…. well, distance is obviously the major culprit I would guess. The quote at the very beginning, while looking nice, gives people false hope on how a relationship would work. Reality checks in, and stabs you right at the heart, and leaves you bleeding on the cold, hard ground.

Dreams, are my reality
I like to dream of you close to me.
I dream of loving in the night
And loving seems alright
Although it’s only fantasy.
                                                   (Richard Sanderson, Reality)




Having studied English literature for two and a half semesters, I genuinely think that the creative pick-up lines nowadays can really be categorized as ‘literature’.

Literature comes from human life, just as Wordsworth claimed, poetry should come from rural life. John Keats had a humble life, and became a great writer. What does it tell us? Literature originates from human life, as writers get inspired from what they see in human life.

Pick up lines, or chat up lines, are as Wordsworth mentioned, human language, as they are actually uttered by normal people. One of my favourite writer, John Keats, also included a pick-up-line-like line in his letter to Fanny Browne, saying ‘I almost wish we were butterflies and liv’d but three summer days – three such days with you I could fill with more delight than fifty common years could ever contain.’ He, as a Romantic writer, is, in my opinion, the beginner of the pink-up culture, a good, healthy, and sensible culture. I would imagine that, Wordsworth, who also agreed that literature comes from normal life, would love the pick-up-line culture, and expand the lines into rhymes, rhymes into poems, poems to a poetry collection. Yes, pick-up poems, pick-up books, pick-up passages that would help you through the ice-breaking process, and kill the dead air.

Do not underestimate the structure and techniques in pick-up lines, as far as I know, a successful pick up line is usually a highly metaphorical one, hopefully rhyme a bit. For example, ‘If you can build any kind of ship in the world, what would you build? I would build a relationship!’ This one is quite a metaphorical one, it may take the hearer a few seconds to realize what happened, its construction is detailed too, putting the ‘ship’ into the word ‘relation’ to make it work, clever. If you have read the poetry of Keats’, you would also find his work is as this line, highly metaphorical. So how can you not call good pick-up lines literature? The line ‘I have got XX kg of muscle of steel, and sex appeal.’ shows that pick up lines can rhyme. No matter how Wordsworth put forward the idea for blank verse, lines that rhyme are always better and more memorable.

Pick up lines are usually successful in making the hearer laugh, and it is usually the first step in building the possible ship, what ship? Relationship. But if you are going for one, don’t quote from Shakespeare for a pick-up line, because it is highly risky. Remember a quote from A Mid Summer Night’s Dream? ‘Love looks not with the eyes, but with the mind, And therefore is winged Cupid painted blind.‘ It can be seen as offensive. And for Much Ado About Nothing, ‘For which of my bad parts didst thou fall in love with me?’ Do not try it either, you might get a reply with the title of the play, ‘Just that one, but then I knew it was Much Ado About Nothing.’

Pick-up lines are generally inspired by creativity and the texts you read, the more you read, the more things you can make reference to. For instance, if you do not know anything about the Science, you can never come across the line ‘Hi, I need to accuse you of causing Global Warming because you are too hot.’ Wordsworh’s companion Coleridge is correct, poetry, or perhaps literature, is as logical as Science, but just deeper as it includes Science. There should be a course in English Literature degree called ‘Pick-up course’, because it is an integral part of ANY LITERATURE in the world, and is potentially a new favourite genre of literature. Yes, I am sure if a person can create a pick-up poetry, pick-up story, pick-up biography, or maybe a pick-up novel, he can probably be crowned as the next Keats!




After the disappointment from the Scotland Independence Referendum, there has been something going on in my hometown Hong Kong, there is a big ‘peaceful protest’ for democracy going on. Well, I don’t know much about the context so I think it would be irresponsible for me to comment on the protest. However, what comes into my mind is that, this is not really a good way for gaining democracy.The ACT of protest, in my opinion, is alright. The PEACEFUL protest (not hurting anyone) is even a cute idea, although I doubt its effectiveness. People just accumulate in the busiest areas (mainly Central, Admiralty, and Mong Kok) 24 hours 7 days sitting there protesting. I know why they proposed the idea of a PEACEFUL protest, the reason is that the government would not have any excuse to clear them up using military force, but does it really mean they would achieve their goals eventually? I doubt it. Also, this is pretty harmful to the economy in Hong Kong, with quite a lot of people not to work for a couple of days in the most economically-important areas, so I would say it could end up in a lose-lose consequence. Also, many university students do not go to university to support the protest, and they claim that they would not go schools but they would still be doing self-study. So it’s like, people not going to work, but still doing freelance? I mean, if you are really into the protest, you should put 100% effort in it, without worrying the things that you need to do to compensate for it.

I believe this is not the best way to gain democracy, as it could lead to a lose-lose consequence. I agree that Hong Kong should gain more democracy, but I just don’t think this is the best way to do it.

In my opinion, no matter what the outcome of the protest would be, Hong Kong would be quite chaotic in the next few years, there must be a big change (no matter whether it is good or bad). This strengthen my will of not going back to Hong Kong for a living, right, it is a NO THANKS. For this, I must do my degree well, to prolong my stay in the UK (hopefully more than 10 years legally), then I can get a British Passport. Ireland, Switzerland Sweden, France, Germany, and Austria are all my other choices, because the immigration policies to those countries are relatively easy,. New Zealand and Canada are the next ones. If NONE of them work, probably it means I have no choice, then I will go back to Hong Kong to work, while I would keep on applying jobs in the UK which would give me the Working Visa. All roads lead to Rome, I believe that UK would eventually vote YES to Hayes Chan!

Too much revolution is going on lately, first came the Scotland Independence Referendum, then it was the Romanticism course which is very much related to the French Revolution, and here came the Hong Kong Revolution…. I may, as well, go to the Revolution Bar to get a few drinks, to get myself a revolution, anyone joining?